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Why You’re Still Single (And How to Change That) Part II - How to Break the Subconscious Contract

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Why You’re Still Single (And How to Change That)  Part II - How to Break the Subconscious Contract


If you’re having difficulty forming a love relationship of your own because you’re subconsciously putting your parent’s emotional needs first, I’m going to ask you to perform an “Emotional Parental Amputation.”  

The reason I call this an amputation is because it’ll feel like you’re losing a part of yourself (an “emotional limb”), which is very traumatic.  If you don’t perform an emotional parental amputation, you’ll never be free.  

I’m not saying you shouldn’t have a relationship with your parents.  I think our relationship with our parents is extremely important.  However, you need to shift the way you connect with them so the connection becomes adult-to-adult, versus child-to-parent.  

At first, you may worry you’re creating a situation that will be difficult for your parents, but this will be just as hard for you.  As you take these five steps, be prepared to grieve and feel loss.  It’s…

Why You’re Still Single (And How to Change That)- Part I

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Why You’re Still Single (And How to Change That)- Part I

"I'm normal, attractive and have a good personality, so why am I still single?”

By all measures, my NYC clients are the most motivated, savvy and successful -- but they’re also the most terrified.   They’ve inexplicably struggled in their pursuit of long lasting relationships and love.  And they want to know why.

My response is always the same: “Tell me about your parents.”

Like most of my clients, you probably come from a very loving family. You might not think of this as cause for concern, but in fact, it may be at the very root of why you’re perpetually single.

Outwardly, you seem independent.  You’re happy with your living situation, career, and financial status.  You have a great circle of friends. You may even consistently find yourself in relationships, thinking you just haven’t found “The One.”  So you may not realize that the core reason you haven’t been able to “close the deal” with another person is an over-connec…